What we mean, when we say " Be A Real Man"

I have been asked a question by a few men in the last few weeks, so I got to thinkin' !! What is Our definition of a "Real Man" Well, I've decided to put it all out there!!

A woman's says to her spouse in anger, "Why can't you be a real man"??? In his mind he is thinking, what the hell, I am a REAL MAN, I work, I drink beer, I like boobs, I drive a truck, I mow the grass, and take out the garbage, hell, I'd never wear pink, how much more of a man can I be???? Well Fellas, that might be your definition of a "Real Man" but it is most definitely NOT ours!!!

A Real Man Will: Support his family, by any means necessary!! Giving them the best in life that he can. Even if it means working with a little pain! He either busts his ass daily at work or, he's staying at home with the kids, taking care of the house, while mom works or goes to school!!
He Will Not: Work for 6 months, twist his ankle walking off a curb, blame it on work and collect disability for the next 2 years, while he sits on the couch playing play station, while his mate has to come home cook, clean, chase 3 kids around and get them ready for bed!!

A Real Man Will: Stand by his mate, 100%! Thick n thin, good and bad!! Because he loves and supports her!! When times are rough, and u go to bed angry, you will find him on the couch in the morning!!
He Will Not: Go get drunk, stay out all night and end up with his ex!!!

A Real Man Will: Get up on Saturday morning by 9am to cook his family breakfast, and start their weekend off right!!
He Will Not: Drink a case of beer Friday night and sleep till noon Saturday, only to eat, clean up and do it again Saturday night.

A Real Man Will: Love you as much as you love him. He will do anything to make you happy, because seeing you happy makes him happy!! He would never hurt you, because he couldn't bare to see you in pain!! Especially because of something he did!!!

He Will Not: Be selfish and think of nobody but himself!! He will not hurt you to make himself feel better!!

A Real Man Will: Get his hands dirty, to get the job done!! He will be proud of his accomplishment in the end!
He Will Not: Call somebody to do it, while he sits and drinks beer, watching!

A Real Man Will: Wrap his arms around you when you are happy, sad or just because he wants to!!!
He Will Not: Sit beside you, while you are sobbing, ignoring your pain, thinking to himself: If I don't make eye contact with her, I won't have to ask what's wrong!!

A Real Man Will: Own up to and take responsibility for his actions! And stand his ground when he has made his stand!!
He Will Not: Blame you or his parents for the reason he is the way he is, and go get drunk, stay out all night, and end up with his ex!!

A Real Man Will: Know exactly what to do to defuse any situation involving his mate!! He will have a tone, a nod an eye twitch, a word, something that will let his lady know he is in control.
He Will Not: Create a scene, fight with her, punch some guy and end up in the drunk tank for the night!

A Real Man Will: Be there to offer his love and support, when you need it!!!
He Will Not: Wait til, you are a stressed out mess, and tell you he doesn't know what you want from him.

A Real Man Will: Offer his lady money for groceries and other things, when he is eating and sleeping more at her house, than at his own.
He Will Not: Eat what ever he wants, sleep when ever he wants, come and go when ever he wants, never offering a dime, while he watches his lady struggle to make ends meet!!

A Real Man Will: Offer to help his lady out when money is tight, even if it means paying a months rent!
He Will Not: Make her beg every body she knows, before he agrees to loan her the money, and then hound her every other day for her to pay it back!!

A Real Man Will: Carry as many of his lady's bags as he can manage, so she can dig for her keys!!
He Will Not: Watch her struggle to the house with 80lbs of groceries, as well as fumble for her keys!


Ok Fellas I know this seems like a lot and may sound a bit harsh, but realistically when you look at what men expect from their ladies, it really isn't that much at all!!! And when you take a minute to think about EVERY man you know over 50 years old, they are hard working, very respectful, courtious, and supportive!!! Men were raised right years ago, now they are left to raise themselves!!! I will touch more on this in my next post but, woman are expected to be superheros all day, and a sultry seductress, at night!!

We cook, clean, discipline, teach, nurture, encourage, and cater to your needs and the needs of our family, before we EVER stop to take a second for ourselves. Feeling beautiful, takes more than a minute, but doesn't need to take all day!! But seriously fellas, it doesn't take a rocket scientist to know that a woman needs to shower to smell pretty, and in order to do that we need 15 minutes ALONE in the bathroom!!! Anyway I hope you learned something, and I didn't offend too many!!

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EARTH TO MOM'S!!! HELLO??? Is there Anybody home??

Ok Ladies I am going to get serious for a few minutes!!!

This may hurt some feelings but I feel it needs to be said!!!

When you were a child, where was your mother??

My mother was a stay @ home mother for 20 years,

and when her youngest child graduated high school, only then did she go back to work!!

My mother was FAR from perfect BUT...... She was ALWAYS a Mother, First and fore most!!

No matter what, my mother was there, even when I didn't think I liked her that much,lol.

My father was in the Military, he worked from 8-4 and some times was away for extended periods of time!! My mother was left with the 3 of us, as well as babysitting,

no less that 4 other children on a daily basis!!!

My Mother ALWAYS had time to make our business HER business!!

We were a very traditional house hold,

there was no other excuse not to go to school,

unless you were deathly ill.

We were at the table every night,

to eat dinner with the whole family, we all had chores!!

Our parents were strict, but for some strange reason,

they were the coolest parents in the neighbourhood!

They knew every body by name and they were always

interested in what the kids were doing!!

When my Dad wasn't away on the Ship,

he was building small skateboarding parks for our friends,

rebuilding community centers in our neighbourhood, or just hangin out on the grass!!

He was even in charge of dishing out and enforcing the community services, some of my friends ended up having to do!! But EVERYBODY loved my parents!! They didn't take any crap, and wouldn't think twice about disciplining somebody else's kids right along side me, if we were caught doing some thing wrong,lol!!

I truly believe that woman need to WAKE the HELL up and realize that, once you have children, you are a Mother first and fore most!! No matter what!!

The reason why kids these days are so

disrespectful and ignorant to the world around them,

is because they are growing up in daycare,

their parents pick them up, feed them and put them to bed,

or they are coming home to empty houses at the end of their school day!!!

If there's nobody there to listen to their daily events @ school,

where do you think they are going to turn??? That's right, the computer!!

Chat rooms, facebook, predators and major weirdos, who are always there to listen!!!

Parents complain about the amount of time children spend on electronics these days,
but they seem to forget one thing..........

Parents are the ones who are buying these things for their kids,

spending thousands of dollars every year on them,

just so they don't have to spend time talking and interacting with their children!!!

Isn't that why you became a parent in the first place???
If you do not place a computer in your child's room,

you can 100% monitor the amount of time they spend online,

as well as what they are doing and who they are interacting with!!!

Too many parents these days, are expecting other people to raise their children,

but expect to take the credit for it!!!

It disgusts me how many women out there are more concerned

with their own social lives, closets, and the corporate ladders they are climbing,

then they are to be home with their children!! Supervising their actions,

and poking their noses where they don't belong!!

THAT IS A PARENTS JOB, NOT TO MENTION, THIER RIGHT!!! PERIOD!!

There was a time, when I was 16 that I couldn't talk on the phone,

unless I was sitting in the same room as one of my parents!!

Oh ya, you bet your ass it sucked but,

they always knew what I was doing, and where I was going!!

Why?? SO I WAS SAFE!!

If I wasn't home on time, they knew who to call,

if I didn't come home they knew there was something wrong and went looking.

There was not one minute in my life that I didn't know that both of my parents loved me!!!

They didn't always get along, but no matter what,

they were ALWAYS Parents first & Parents TOGETHER!!

A united front to the bitter end!!! When it came to punishments,there were no rash decisions,

they always discussed it together in another room and then came together to dish it out!!!

Parents, seem to forget that

THEY ARE THE BOSS, THEY MAKE THE DECISIONS, WHAT THEY SAY GOES!!!

That is our RIGHT as Parents, don't EVER forget that!!

Put your foot down more when they are young and cute,

it will be much easier to to do when they are big and ugly!! lol

It's time Mother's focus more on the lives of their children,

and the members of society they will become!!

What kind of people do you want your children to become??

If you want them to be selfish, then all you have to do is...

Just keep being selfish and the rest will just fall into place!!!

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